Dear Abby: I feel that my parents are enabling my sister to take advantage of them.
She has been suffering from depression all her life. She has two children, ages 8 and 5. Before COVID, she dealt with her depression and was a stay-at-home mom for six years.
Back in March, he asked my parents to take their 8-year-old to attend the rest of the school. One or both of his children have been at our home for the past several months. Keep in mind, she and her husband live five hours away, so it’s not like they’re nearby. Now there is a discussion about my parents that they will be placed next year.
Mom retired last year and was barely able to enjoy her retirement with her stepfather. When I and my brother bring up their subject, enabling my sister to overcome her depression by pawning her children, and falsifying their response, her response is, “Well, it’s her deepest Better to get away from the end. “
I also feel bad that those children are not in their homes with their parents, rather than being around them.
Do I think she is allowing him to get away with being the wrong parent?
Included in Colorado
Released: The COVID-19 epidemic and subsequent quarantine have led to anxiety and severe depression in those who were previously emotionally afflicted. It can cause recurrence in someone with chronic depression is no surprise.
Your mother and stepfather are doing what they feel is best for their grandchildren, your sister and yourself. Accept it and stop second guessing. You have more than enough to deal with you without adding more stress to this point.
Dear Abby: I have a delightful, caring, loving man in my life. We knew each other years ago when we were married to other people. Three years ago, after two years of courtship, they asked me to go inside.
We are great together. They have embraced my two children and especially my two grandchildren as there was none from their previous marriage.
Because I bring more than anyone to their lives, I proposed to them seven months ago, and they said yes. We talked, and he requested a prenup, which is fine with me because his ex had taken a large sum of money.
I have asked many times since the proposal whether he has spoken to his cousin, a lawyer he trusts, but I do not believe this is going on.
Because you cannot make someone do anything they are not willing to do, I have stopped asking. He knows that I need financial security.
I’ve always been right by him – that’s me. At this point, I am enjoying my life of being privileged with my doctor partner, who loves me dearly, but cannot seem to honor our relationship and take the next step. Shall i be right
Wait for now
Warning: I agree that you cannot make anyone do anything they are not willing to do. Since drafting the prenuptial agreement seems to be stalled, raise the topic again and ask if it is ready to accept your proposal or move forward. He can like things as they are, and if you are ready to give them, you will need more than that. Three years is enough time to decide if he wants to make your romance permanent.
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