John Cena and Nikki Bella were together for six years, and throughout their relationship, the old boyfriends struggled to get in tune with their opposing views about becoming fathers.
Although Cena, 40, was firm against having children from the first moment, Bella, 34, was initially vocal about her desire to be a mother, although she stated that she eventually came to an agreement with the idea of not having children.
What makes Cena so reluctant to become a father According to one source, the professional wrestler is "almost singularly focused on his goal of being a famous mega actor, entertainer and actor".
"It's not fair for a child to bring them into the world if you're not prepared to focus on them, and it just is not," says the insider. "He does not want to be an absent father and he does not see how he would not be given everything he wants to do in his career and in his life."
According to the insider, another reason why Cena may have to not want children is possibly due to his time spent with children with terminal illnesses. (The WWE community works closely with Make-A-Wish, and Cena has personally bestowed more than 500 wishes.)
"Contemplating the possibility of bringing a child into this world that could later be hurt or made sick, would be more than I could take, "says the source. "But you can not live your life according to a possible worst-case scenario." His brother has health problems, but in any case, that should show him that these things can be manageable, because John helps a lot with that. "
" Look, it's your prerogative not to want children, "adds the source. in that case, all this should have stopped so long ago. They should have broken after a year. And that really is in both: I should not have tried to wriggle someone to not please him. And I should not have given him a false hope that he would change. "
Interestingly, while promoting his latest film, Blockers Cena admitted that playing a father in the movie" had certainly changed "." Your perspective on fatherhood.
"The movie helps with that, no doubt my perspective on life helps with that, working on my relationship with my girlfriend is helpful with that, so it's amazing what you can achieve if you sit down and talk to people "he told PEOPLE. "So I've done a lot of that."
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Cena and Bella announced their separation on Sunday with a statement posted on Twitter: "While this decision was difficult, we continue to feel a lot of love and respect for each other, we ask you to respect our privacy during this time in our lives. "
The break came a few weeks before they settled down to marry at a destination wedding on May 5, and a source told PEOPLE this week that Cena began to cool. feet when the date was approaching. (The actor, who was previously married to Elizabeth Huberdeau from 2009-12, admitted in the past that he did not want to marry again)
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"He spoke very well of having changed, of having clear priorities, of knowing what was important and what she was like," said the source. "But as the day approached, it was as if he was always the one who has always been, that is someone who gets first, always, he's an incredibly dedicated, motivated and ambitious guy, and for a long time he said he did not think would take place in your life for a spouse or children.It seems that in the end it was still the truth. "
The romance of the former couple developed in the reality shows of E! Total Divas and Total Fine – and a special television about their wedding was released on air in July. The concept has been eliminated, but their relationship will remain a point of the plot in Total Fine that returns on May 20.