However, her parents would never admit that she could have influenced their opinion. “The trick is to make them think it was their idea,” he said. “If you have the conversation in different and small ways, over time they start to read the news through the lens you provide them and come to their own conclusion.”
Ask lots of questions, suggests Ener Chiu of the East Bay Asian Local Development Corporation. “Ask them how they feel and what we can do to help them feel safe.”
As more older people get vaccinated, he encourages them to get together again in groups, whether in parks, recreation centers, or elsewhere, and over time, “actively participate” in their community. “People won’t feel so isolated, carrying their pepper spray, ‘you against the world,'” Chiu said.
Recent events have prompted some Asian Americans, like Ms. Lee’s parents, who insisted on going grocery shopping.
Typically, her father texts her photos of wild turkeys and deer roaming the streets of his retirement community in the eastern suburbs of San Francisco. The other day, however, he posted a photo of a neighborhood protest, with his mother holding a cardboard sign, “Stop Asian Hate.”
“Until now, my parents have not felt heard except in the ethnic media,” Ms. Lee said. “They complain, but they wonder who is listening. Now there is a surge of energy, not just from other Asian-Americans, but also from their allies. “
Vanessa hua is the author of “Deception and other possibilities”, “A river of stars” and the next novel “The forbidden city”.