I’m talking to some of their friends’ mothers, and they didn’t let their children go to the park. When I asked who he was walking with, it was with his old men in their 20s and 30s working in the park. My son is only 13 years old.
If he is not hanging out with his friends I know or have children his age, then I am not comfortable being out with older people I do not know.
I don’t want to tell her that she can’t go to the park anymore, but I don’t think she would understand that I don’t want her to hang out with these old new friends. How can I give him freedom even while protecting him?
Dear Chaturthi Mother: This is simple. Your son should not go and play with unknown men who are unknown to him. Period.You can go with him one day to see who is there and interact with each other. But until you can identify someone you should not let go with him. This is due to security reasons on more than one front. You want to limit your son’s interactions with everyone, especially people he doesn’t know. And you want to make sure that he is not exposed to behavior or disillusionment with a teenage boy.
Talk to your friends’ mothers again to see if any of them would be ready to hold socially distant gatherings with your son. This is the best option, in my book.
loved one: I am a stay-at-home mom, and my husband now works from home. We have three children and two dogs, a full house. We start our day early and end in the late evening.
My husband is currently in his office. We have tried to balance work and personal life with boundaries. He does not work outside his office, and he keeps working for a few hours.
Even though we have found our rhythm, I feel alone and program without a break. My children need attention every moment, and my husband is close, but not here most days. When I get free time, I get tired and don’t know how to relax. My house is supposed to be my sanctuary, but being home and no need to go anywhere, I am not enjoying my break. What can help to relax my mind in this situation?
Dear Travel: Step back, take a breath and reassure the situation. Yes, it is stressful. But it is very similar to life before COVID-19. Think about what you did and what is different now. Assign specific responsibilities to your children that give you some flexibility.
Tell your husband that you are in dire need of his help. Even if there is an hour every day after work, you need to include the children so that you can get an hour off. Don’t complain when you talk to him about it. Explain that this is what you need in order to keep the family.Harriet Cole is a lifeist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people reach and activate their dreams. You can send questions to [email protected] or c / o Andrews McMill Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.