Every time you listen to or read about Mercury retrograde, it seems that you always focus on one thing: its potential to unleash chaos and have a lot of negative effects on your life, and that includes your love life as well. But exactly how Mercury retrograde can affect your love life, and what can couples do to make sure their relationship survives? The few times a year (as in this moment) when Mercury seems to recede through the sky, it is said that our earthly communication is interrupted, all because Mercury is the ruler of the mind and communication. And since relationships depend so much on good communication, it makes sense that retrograde Mercury can be a tumultuous time for couples, but not necessarily has .
"Mercury retrograde is not the bad" demonic people portray him [as] "Jaya Jaya Myra, author, presenter and expert on health and natural lifestyle," he tells Bustle. "In fact, it's just a reminder to look closely at your communication with yourself and with those in your life." The fact is that many things can lead to disputes and misunderstandings.If you are in a period of time when it is likely to face these communication problems (moments of high stress, changes in life, retrograde Mercury), simply pay close attention to their communication and notice how the other person receives it ".
Is it possible that it will cost you more time than regular communication with your partner during Mercury retrograde? Yes, but it is also an opportunity to work on improving your communication as a couple and taking the time to connect and reflect on your relationship. If you want to learn how to make the most of Mercury retrograde 2017 (which runs from December 3 to December 22), here are six things you can do to improve your relationship and grow your connection with your partner.  1 Write love letters to your partner
If you feel a little tied up in your tongue and can not find the right words to express your love to your partner during Mercury retrograde , it's the perfect time to put the pen to the paper and write a love letter; That way, you really have time to analyze your thoughts and express them correctly.
"[During Mercury Retrograde] there may be delays in communications, lack of technological cooperation and general advice not to sign large contracts," Dr. Perpetua Neo, psychologist and Astrocoach tells Bustle. "But Mercury, the dominant communications and mental agility, can be great for writing … So couples can write love letters to each other, better still, if they are reflective and based on gratitude, because Mercury retrograde helps to look back and inward. "
2 Re-visit happy memories of your past
In addition to bringing us an absurd communication, Mercury Retrograde is also a great time to reflection. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of your romantic history, take this opportunity to recall all the memories happy you created with your partner.
"Looking back means you can review things you have lost contact with," says Neo. "It's often too easy to forget about the things you used to enjoy, lost in the whirlwind of life, Mercury Retrograde can be the perfect opportunity to rediscover and laugh."
3 Take some time to reflect Connect
In a long-term relationship, it is as important to express gratitude for your partner. As you remember your past, take time to nurture your connection in the present: tell your partner how grateful you are for them and strive to build even more intimacy.  "[Mercury Retrograde] is a great opportunity to slow down, reflect and be grateful," says Neo. "There is some evidence that the connection can trigger higher levels of oxytocin and vasopressin, which engenders feelings of closeness in a couple's relationship."
4 Work on a project with your partner
If really wants to bond with your partner during retrograde Mercury, look for a project that the two of you can do together (Bonus points if it is one that has been left out in the past and is revisiting).
"Mercury retrograde is ideal for anything revisionary," says Neo. "So, if there is a project that has been archived or something to 'edit' and 'improve', that the couple can do together, it will also encourage a deeper connection. shared is a great opportunity for union. "
5 Have a talk "Clean the closet" with your partner
If you think there is some "clean-up" to do in your relationship, concerns you need to address, past problems want to move from, etc. – Mercury retrograde is really a good time to have a conversation with your partner (just remember to be careful and aware of how communicates).
"The Mercury Retrograde" period is a good time to have a talk in your relationship, "says Bustle Craig Martin, Astrologer, Spiritual Guide and Owner of Sage of Stars." It may seem contradictory, but the truth is that the retrograde is highly conducive to sitting, cleaning the closet, kind of conversation that can improve relationships. "
6 Be positive and willing to work on Your relationship
Instead of living in fear of what may happen to your relationship during retrograde Mercury, maintain a positive attitude and become your mission to use this time to be very careful with your way of communicating.If you practice active listening, you are compassionate with your partner and you show your love, there's no reason to worry.
"Because the difficulties will occur in everyone's life and relationships, Mercury Retrograde is a perfect opportunity to learn skillfully. valuable things such as conflict resolution, crisis communication, compassion, active listening, etc. ", says Myra. "All those things … improve all relationships If life gives you lemons, make lemonade If life gives you Retrograde Mercury, make sure your intention is heard, and not a distorted version of it."
In short, retrograde Mercury is what we make of it, not what it makes of us. So, while it may be somewhat alarming to read about how Mercury Retrograde can potentially ruin your relationship, there is no real reason to be afraid: as long as you and your partner have a solid and stable relationship and are excited to do even better, Mercury retrograde It's like any other time of the year.