How to identify and help suicide survivors

One program is training teachers, youth leaders and Shaluchim to become the first defendants of mental health and suicidal gatekeepers. Here are tips that can help people struggling with suicide. Full story, video

By rabbi Zalaman abraham

In 2001, the US Surgeon General stated, “Suicide is the most preventable form of our death.”

In recent months, I have had the privilege of working with some amazing people on a youth suicide prevention initiative from The Wellness Institute, a new department of The Rohr Jewish Learning Institute (JLI).

Our mission is to save lives by training youth leaders, teachers, parents, and the shalukim to become the first responders and suicidal gatekeepers of mental health in their communities, and the flexibility to engage youth groups in discussions on this important topic. Provide construction tora educational material. Helping them to understand their internal conflicts and develop healthy self-esteem.

JLI works closely with leading experts in suicide prevention, including the American Association of Suicidology (AAS), Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services and the S Looks Hospital Network.

While doing research for the program, I learned that the key to preventing suicide lies in the hands of more of us than it is in the hands of professionals.

The average person is not a licensed physician or counselor to offer treatment, but everyone can help a person avoid suicide for them, provide hope, and help them get professional help. is.

People believe suicide is invincible, intervention will only make things worse, and only experts should be involved. The truth is that if people get the help they need, they will probably never commit suicide again. Asking directly and compassionately about suicide intentions reduces their anxiety, opens communication, and reduces the risk of an impulsive act. This means that everyone can prevent suicide.

What can you do here? Listen and see what the people around you are saying, what they are doing and what is happening in their lives. Take the following warning signs seriously:

Verbal Clues:

“I wish I was dead.” “I’m tired of life, I can’t go now.” “My family would be better off without me.” “Very soon you won’t have to worry about me.” -A comment that suggests they are considering ending their lives.

Behavior Clues:

Previous suicide attempt. Acquiring gun or stockpiling bullets. Co-depression, mood, depression. Keeping your personal affairs in order. Give away prized possessions. Suddenly becoming very religious or completely apathetic in religion. Substance abuse or withdrawal after a period of recovery. Unexplained anger, aggression, and irritability.

Status clues:

Fired or fired from school. Forced to move. Lost a major relationship. Lost a spouse, child, or friend (especially by suicide). Diagnosis of a serious or terminal illness. Fear of sudden loss of freedom or punishment. Estimated loss of financial security. Loss of a beloved physician, counselor, or teacher. Fear of becoming a burden on others.

Once you identify a problem, what can you do about it:

Step 1. If you suspect thoughts of suicide, ask them directly about it: “When people are as upset as you sound, they sometimes wish they were dead. I was wondering if you feel the same? “” You look so sad, I wonder if you are thinking about suicide? “” Are you thinking of killing yourself? ”

How you make them feel is important to you. be supportive. Do not be worried that it will put thoughts in your head, it will not happen. It is proven (Gold et al., 2005).

Step 2: Listen to the problem and give them your full attention. Remember, suicide is not the problem, it is the only “solution” to a perceived incurable problem. Do not be hasty in making decisions. Offer hope in any form.

Step 3: persuade them to access help. Ask: “Will you go with me to get help?” “Will you help me help you?” “Will you allow me to call you a lifeline?”

People contemplating suicide may not be able to get professional help on their own. When offered a viable alternative to live, people will almost certainly agree and find great relief in the hope it provides, so don’t hesitate to join and lead.

  1. Please give assurance Tell them: “I want you to live.” “I’m on your side, we’ll get it together.”

  2. Follow your gut, if you think the person can act on their thoughts of suicide, call 911 or offer to take them to the nearest emergency room.

  3. If you do not feel that immediate help is needed, provide them with contact information for the Suicide Prevention Lifeline or Crisis Text Line.

  4. Add others. Ask them who else can help. Mashpia? family? friend? Rabbi?

  5. Offer to work with whoever is going to provide counseling or treatment.

  6. Follow up with a trip or a phone call telling the person that you care about what happens to them.

Remember that hope is the key to preventing suicide. You can be the source of that hope, and by doing so you can save a life.

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Free confidential crisis intervention via SMS message. Available 24 hours a day throughout the US, UK and Canada and can be reached from Texas Home by 741741, 85258, or 686868 respectively.

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The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a United States-based suicide prevention network that provides a 24/7, toll-free hotline to anyone in a suicide crisis or emotional crisis. 1800-274-talk (8255)

Rabbi Zalman Abraham is the director of marketing and strategic planning for JLI. This article was originally published in the NST Chabad newsletter. It was reviewed by Dr. Sigrid Panchnik, PsyD, who served as the director of suicide prevention for New York State from 2016–2020, and is a senior clinical consultant for JLI’s The Wellness Institute.

“Suicide Prevention in Schools,” presentation by Dr. Jill Harkavy-Freedman, Vice president of research for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention through JLI

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