One of the lessons learned from more than three decades of marriage is that it does not always matter if you're right, especially if you're not on the tape.
Because the law does not always govern. Or so says the lovely wife, sweetly.
Troy Aikman, no doubt, was aware of this axiom even before he set fire to Jerry Jones's problems this week.
Among other things, during his weekly radio visit with The Ticket after the cataclysmic defeat of the Cowboys 28-14 against the Titans, Aikman:
one.) Call for "a complete review of the entire organization".
two.) He says that Jerry promises to change, but never does.
3.) He qualified the exchange by Amari Cooper for an admission that "we're screwed."
4.) I could not remember a worse loss for the Cowboys in another similar point.
Frankly, apart from the Joneses and a handful of acolytes, who would argue with any of the above?
Over the years, readers have occasionally expressed the same points, and not so kindly. It appears every time the Cowboys lose. Frustrated fans want to know why their intrepid reporter does not call Jerry for the comment he is. Are you afraid he will pull your press pass? Tell him to get out of the football business, they say. Let a true footballer assume the position of general manager.
The response of theirs is always the same: I think I have proof that Jerry's football skills. You could look for it.
Also, after almost 30 years, it's almost a fact, right? Does anyone out there believe that Jerry is Ron Wolf?
Teen Wolf, more likely.
What has made it so difficult for Cowboys fans for a long time is that they remember how Clint Murchison did business. Practically a ghost. When fans and the media wanted Tom Landry's head in the mid-60s, Murchison appeared from the shadows, gave his head coach a 10-year contract and then returned to his Mai Tai.
You should have grown up with Bud Adams as your owner. Do you think Jerry is bad? The first seven years of the Oilers, had six coaches in chief. A couple of them had trained league champions. And when Bud finally stayed with a coach, it was Jeff Fisher, of all people.
Also, for all I know, Jerry has never hit an athlete like Bud did, earning him points in the press box.
Anyway, there's no need to point out Jerry's weaknesses. It has been impossible to avoid your eyes. He has been under constant scrutiny since the declaration of "athletes and socks". Aikman knows the story as well as anyone. He has seen the sausage works from the inside out, and obviously he has scarred it.
From the beginning, it has become clear that Aikman was on Jimmy Johnson's side, not Jerry's. According to the records, if Jimmy had stayed, the Cowboys could have won at least two more Super Bowls. It sounds pretty good, too.
One of the reasons that Aikman was a Hall of Fame quarterback, and an excellent football analyst, is his sober, diligent and carefree approach to the game. I would be an excellent general manager. Maybe you think so too.
But if you think that one day you could become a GM of the Cowboys, forget it. And not just because he nudged Jerry.
As pointed out here over and over again, Jerry is the owner of the Cowboys so he can run them. He does not want to train, as many veterans think. He wants creditSomething that Jimmy would never allow.
Where my opinion differs from Aikman's is his claim that Jerry never changes. I do not think there's much doubt that Jerry has softened. In the 1990s, Jerry would never have let Stephen convince him that he had not recruited Johnny Manziel. He also learned to let players go too expensive to maintain. Think of DeMarcus Ware and Dez Bryant.
From my point of view, Jerry's biggest accusation over the years was not letting Jimmy go, because Jimmy was going to go sooner or later. He was not a lifesaver of the NFL. What killed the Cowboys were all those bad drafts after Jimmy left.
However, since Will McClay has been in charge, the Cowboys have accumulated talent on both sides of the ball. Even if they are still short in some places, maybe even as a quarterback, they are good enough to win.
The obvious talent has exposed the shortcomings of Jason Garrett. His offense and the handling of the game are the culprits.
Could Garrett use a better boss? No doubt about it. But do you have enough material to win? Yes I think so.
Outside of Boston, there are no ideal organizations. Before Sean McVay took over the Rams last year, the Rams had accumulated two winning seasons. This century. And Jeff Fisher was the last coach.
The Cowboys general manager just needs to find the next Sean McVay. Or a reasonable facsimile. As for the owner of the Cowboys to find a new general manager, forget it. It will not happen. If it makes you feel better to complain, be my guest. Even the lovely wife lets me bark from time to time, as long as she remembers who the guide dog is.
This topic is losing its voice.